Sunday, December 15, 2013

Keep Calm and Observe On


I'm gonna lie on this lily pad until you calm down


Stopping and calming, then looking deeply is a great series of steps to help me solve problems, especially when I feel very excited or irrational. Sometimes when I am stressed out, I am easily excitable and sometimes events that aren’t truly earthshaking send me into a half wild state. For instance, on the day that I had to move out of my dorm, I found that one of my roommates vandalized my room by moving things and making my room even more disorganized than it already was. When I found my room like this, I was furious and I called up my roommate and had a very angry phone call with him and said some things I later took back. After I hung up, I remembered Hanh’s strategy of stopping and calming and tried to recognize, accept, and embrace my feelings before finding insight about them. While I was later ashamed at how I reacted towards my friend, I remembered that the best strategy was to accept how I felt. Of course I would be incensed if someone I trusted threw around my stuff while I was gone and I accepted that it was natural to feel that way. Once I allowed myself to feel this way and I calmed down, I slid back into my excited state when I remembered that I had a flat tire and I was certainly going to be late for work and my boss would be mad at me and this, and that, and the other…

WHAT AM I GOING TO DO?!?!
and then I took another deep breath and calmed down again. This time I sat down and I realize now how that moment to sit down related to Hanh’s metaphor about how animals react when they are hurt: “They find a place to lie down, and they rest completely” (27). So I sat down for five minutes and waited until I came up with a plan. I also took this time to realize that the real reason I was angry with my friend was all of the other stressors on my mind when I called him, but I didn’t realize it at the time. When I figured out what would be best to do, I was able to do it with an uncluttered mind after taking some time to just stop my busy mind, rest, and see the truth behind what I was experiencing. So I called my boss to tell her I would be late for work and she wasn’t mad. I finished packing my car, and then I got down to the tire. I almost started worrying again but I stopped and calmed down again and realized that while I only have a donut to replace the flat, other people in the building surely had a jack and a tire iron. So I asked around and sure enough, everyone had what I needed. I got the carjack from James, the tire iron from Paul, Molly gave me her gloves though I didn’t ask when she saw how cold my hands were, and someone else help me hit off the old tire that seized to the hub.

That day I actually had many insights. The first learned was that the meditation technique of stopping and calming then healing is a great problem solving method. If I didn’t take the five minutes to calm down and see the problems I had as they really were, and not the insurmountable fabrications I imagined them to be, I realized that my problems were entirely solvable.
 I also learned that while I was angry with my friend for making a mess of my room, it was just a room. I felt like it was a violation of my trust, and though I still think it was, I reacted in a volatile way and there was no reason my friend and I couldn’t reconcile, so I took steps to apologize to him for being so upset. A third insight I had was that without other people to help me, I would have been out of luck that day. It helped me realize that I’m not truly alone and that there will always be someone willing to lend me a hand if I ask for it. This is a powerful insight to me because I often feel isolated, but when I look at that feeling closely, I am often wrong and the flat tire helped me see that. And the final thing I learned that day was that acting rationally to solve my problems earns the respect of the people around me, and it proved that “my actions are the ground on which I stand” (124) like Hanh points out. Instead of acting like a crazy person in my panic, I did something about my problems and people gave me credit for trying to fix the flat as opposed to just giving up. The events that day really changed my mind about how meditation helps me problem solve and provide peace to my mind when I am feeling stressed out and uncertain.

             Work Cited
             Hanh, T.N. 1999. The Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching.

The Four Nutriments of Buddhism

In Buddhism, there are four types of nutriments that aid in either our happiness or our suffering. These nutriments are edible food, sense impressions, intention, and consciousness.

Edible food is the most obvious of the four nutriments, however it goes much further in depth than just the nagging-mom cliché of “eat your fruits and vegetables”. In Buddhism, the nutriment of edible food is not only about eating healthy, but also about looking to, “see how we grow our food, so we can eat in ways that preserve our collective well-being, minimize our suffering and the suffering of other species, and allow the earth to continue to be a source of life for all of us” (Hanh 32). This means that we should not eat meat from farms that abuse their animals, or eat processed foods from factories that pollute and damage our planet.

But still, the concept of nutriment of edible food goes further. Buddhists believe that, “When we smoke, drink, or consume toxins, we are eating our own lungs, liver, and heart. If we have children and do these things, we are eating our children’s flesh. Our children need us to be healthy and strong” (Hanh 32). The notion that allowing negative substances into your body is the same as physically eating your own organs is an extremely eye opening idea to me. Never before had I viewed smoking and drinking to be a person physically eating away at themself. I viewed it as someone simply making a poor decision and that their decision, whether it be smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol excessively, or doing drugs, was what damaged them. Though my view is much more common among our society, I like the idea of a person physically eating away at themself much more because I feel as though it is a much better representation of what is actually happening. Every time someone goes outside on a “smoke break” it is like they are choosing a piece of their lung to dispose of, as if they no longer need it.

After reading about the Buddhism view on the nutriment of edible food, I definitely feel as if I am much more aware of what I eat. After all, if I love and care about myself, then why would I treat my body like a trashcan?

The second type of nutriment is sense impressions. This is the stimulation of our senses of sight, smell, sound, taste, and touch. Every second of every day all of our senses are constantly in use. However, we must be very aware of what we feed our senses. “Advertisements that stimulate our cravings for possessions, sex, and food can be toxic” (Hanh 33). A great example of how sensory input can be harmful to one’s self is the food network. I used to always love relaxing after a day of classes by watching the food network with my friend, Jen. However, we realized that often times after watching gourmet food being prepared on TV, we would be hungry and crave foods that are not at all healthy. But can you blame us? The negative sense impressions we received from the TV (both sight and sound) made us want something that is toxic to us. Since our realization, Jen and I have started watching shows that leave us with more positive feelings. We now like to watch shows like The Biggest Loser because it inspires us to eat and act healthy.

Hanh explains the concept of sense impressions best when he says, “Our skin protects us from bacteria. Antibodies protect us from internal invaders. We have to use the equivalent aspects of our consciousness to protect us from unwholesome sense objects that can poison us” (Hanh 33).

The third type of nutriment recognized by Buddhists is volition, which is the desire in us to obtain whatever it is we want. The big problem with this nutriment is that what we want is often not what is in our best interest. “We need the insight that position, revenge, wealth, fame, or possessions are, more often than not, obstacles to our happiness. We need to cultivate the wish to be free of these things so we can enjoy the wonders of life that are always available” (Hanh 35). Buddhism suggests that rather than suffer from wanting something we cannot have, it is much better to focus on the things we do have. “We always try to accumulate more and more, and we think these “cows” are essential for our existence. In fact, they may be the obstacles that prevent us from being happy” (Hanh 35).

About a year ago, I was in a very bad relationship. He treated me poorly, we fought all the time, and he was extremely unfaithful. However, I chose to stay with him because I loved him and really wanted things to work out. My desire for things to work with someone that constantly hurt me is a perfect example of what Hanh is talking about. I wanted something that not only was not good for me, but also made me suffer. Once I realized that he was not what I wanted and did not make me happy, I was able to find peace within myself and began finding things that actually made me happy, like spending times outdoors and writing poetry.

The fourth and final type of nutriment is consciousness. Consciousness is a combination of our thoughts, ideas, and actions. “Our consciousness is eating all the time, day and night, and what it consumes becomes the substance of our life” (Hanh 36). If we dwell on the negative, then we are not able to let ourselves be happy. Yes, forcing a change of consciousness is hard and involves lots of work, but it is possible.


Since reading The Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching, I have started to focus more on my stream of consciousness and work towards making it more positive so that I can ultimately improve my life. I often find myself ruminating about negative things in my current relationship. My boyfriend has a friend named Jessica, who he used to be romantically involved with. This really bothers me and I often find myself wondering whether or not she is a threat to me, what her feelings are towards him, what his feelings are towards her, what they talk about, and why she doesn’t like me. These thoughts are all really negative and it never ceases to put me in a bad mood whenever she comes to mind. I’d love to finish off this blog post with a happy story about how thanks to a lot of introspection, meditation, and realization I no longer worry about her and have improved my life in the process, but that’s not true. The truth is that changing your consciousness is hard. Really, REALLY hard. We have unknowingly conditioned ourselves our entire lives to think the way that we do, and our stream of consciousness is a creature of habit that does not want to be altered. Hopefully with time and a lot of mindfulness I can come to better terms with my insecurities about Jessica and not let them effect me as much, but for now I still struggle with this. But hey, what is life without struggle?

There Is No Absolute Suffering



One interesting passage from Hanh’s work talks about the objectivity of suffering. He said that the “cold air can be painful if you are not wearing warm enough clothes, but with proper clothing, cold air can be a source of joy” (123). He is talking about how suffering is only relative and that it has no absolute meaning, unlike joy which does have an absolute meaning. Suffering is only dependent on how we view the world. For instance, when I feel depressed sometimes, I often cannot get out of a negative pattern of thinking. 
Everyone has this loop sometimes...
It doesn’t really matter what kind of events or input I am getting, if I am in one of those depressive loops anything will make me feel depressed. However, on another day when I feel much better I can find joy in most things and often I would probably be happy about the same thing I felt depressed about a few days ago. In this way, suffering and happiness are subjective because they depend completely on how I feel at a given moment.
            Hanh’s notion of joy being absolute while suffering has no absolute presence is very powerful because it means that at the heart of existence there is joy. When the Buddha was talking about “the complete silencing is joy” (123), he probably meant that once we stop thinking of ourselves as separate from anything else, above or below something, and instead think of ourselves as interconnected with our world we feel joy. There is no conception of superior or inadequate when you consider yourself as an extension of everything and everything as a part of you. You will truly treat your world as you would treat yourself, like Western religions encourage, if you see the world as yourself.
Two very cool dudes, chillin' under the tree.
            And as far as depression is concerned, it is very hard to feel hateful towards yourself if it means hating the whole world and truly believing that there is no good in the world. The Buddha claims that this is impossible to do. A good way for me to break my depressive loops is to consider this paradox, and when things seem hopeless it has really helped me turn my day around.


 Work Cited.

Hanh, T.N. 1999. The Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching.